When boys stop going out, isolate themselves and lose contact with others, parents can take stabilizing steps to help their son develop a more conscious self-image. Societal change affects the identity development of boys sensitively. In the balancing act between traditional concepts of masculinity and modern concepts of gender, under pressure to perform and in the midst of global problems, many young people and young men cannot find their way. The reaction is often shame, the symptoms are isolation from family, friends and the local environment, coupled with excessive consumption of video games and cannabis. Uri Weinblatt analyzes the transition phase from youth to man in connection with the genesis of feelings of shame. His answers are clear, concrete and knowledgeable about how parents can support their sons to regulate their shame, find their way and grow up with confidence.