The author, a gay Indonesian who feels he is "not much of a looker," immigrates to the USA and is inundated with shirtless joggers, same-sex public displays of affection, and the constant drive to psychoanalyze. In this poignant, witty, flippant, and trenchant collection of personal essays the author recounts his and two friends' paths to cross-cultural gay marriage and adjusting to very new lives in the USA. Yuska Lutfi Tuanakotta came from Indonesia to San Francisco in 2011 to study dance and creative writing, has two MFAs in Writing, has presented work at AWP, and was a 2014 Lambda Literary Foundation Fellow.