How do you manage to maintain the power of desire as an adult? This book is about the special competence that makes it possible to feel (again) your own wishes, to put them into words and to shape them with your own potential. How much wish is possible? What is my wish And above all: What is my wish important for? Joseph Rieforth explains that wishing shouldn't stop when you grow up. Because wishes help to trace your own feelings and the underlying emotional needs. However, this requires a certain ability: the desired competence. It makes it possible not to adapt your life too much to the external conditions, but to give room for reflexive processes. The fan model for self-development (FäMoS) developed by the author shows ways in which wishes can be consciously used and used as meaningful moments for one's own way of life. Building on psychodynamic and systemic self-concepts, the model focuses on increasing self-acceptance and experienced self-efficacy as essential components of a dynamic self-concept. The model enables a direct connection between the person's self-concept and the current concern or conflict. In this way, the dynamics between the current situation and the development of the self can be recorded and processed simultaneously in the context of counseling and therapy. The fan model for self-development (FäMoS) is attached to the printed edition as a fan. The electronic editions are delivered without subjects.