Stay at Home...Not Be Put In a Home. Home is where and what you want it to be. Feel safer and have greater control with peace of mind. Live comfortably with dignity and independence. You will discover how to: Control what happens to you regardless of your capacity. Be in charge of your money-Learn the language of finances. Choose the people and organizations to best serve you. Have your money spent on you first-Do it before you need it. Choose appropriate caregivers. Talk with your children and avoid being a burden. Plan for the possibility of the money running out.