Children need to learn how to get attention without hitting or whining, deal with feelings without blowing up or giving up, establish and respect boundaries, and solve problems. Using the STAR Parenting process, this book gives parents tools to teach and reinforce these social skills. It offers tools to reduce a parent's role as referee, gives immediate help with a process to handle any sibling conflict, offers easy to understand examples of real-life situations, and gives parents insight into ways they may be encouraging the quarrelling they hate.