How did a beautiful, talented college student fall in love with a man serving twenty-to-life for murder? Why did she marry him? At a time when one in four black men is caught in the web of the criminal justice system, Asha Bandele shatters the myths of prisoner's wives and tells a story of the beauty of love even in the ugliest of circumstances. Whether she is describing her restricted but romantic courtship with Rashid, when letters were like dates, or riding the bus upstate with the other wives and girlfriends, Bandele creates haunting images and reflections so powerful and unique that they beg to be reread and savoured. At the same time that she recalls the ups and downs that accompany a relationship that is constantly scutinized by guards and surveillance cameras, she confronts the secrets and sadness in her past and comes to terms with hersilf as an African-American woman and a prisoner's wife. A gifted poet, Asha Bandele has written an extraordinarily candid book that resonates with poetic language and abundant insight.