When I was expecting my first child, I read everything I could get my hands on about pregnancy and childbirth. My loved ones gave me volumes of advice as well, which often ran counter to what the books said and what I had come to believe from a lifetime of living in the UAE. Instead of making me feel empowered and capable, the advice left me feeling ashamed, confused, scared, incapable, and really, really down. I found myself constantly responding to peoples recommendations by saying and sometimes yelling THATS NOT WHAT THE BOOKS SAY Hence, the title of the book. This book is meant to give insight on how you should use your own intelligence